Human Development 4
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- Rules of Friendship
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volunteer help in time of need
respect friends' privacy
keep confidence
trust and confide in each other
stand up for other person
don't criticize each other in public
show emotional support
look in eye during conversation
strive to make each other happy
don't be jealous or critical of each other's relationships
be tolerant of each other's friends
share news of successs
ask for personal advice
don't nag
engage in joking/teasing
seek to repay debts
disclose personal feelings - Momentary playmate
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druing childhood ages 3-7
friends are defined by proximity, conflict ends when other person goes away
no considering of other's thoughts, you assume they know what you're thinking - One-way assistance
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during childhood ages 4-9
give and take arises
own needs still come first
guilt comes into play -
Fairweather cooperation
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childhood ages 6-12
the infamous "do-over" is introduced
start knowing how others think of you
apologies carry meaning
fights that aren't ressolved = end of friendship - intimate-mutual sharing
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friendship is exclusive and possessive
judge friends and others based on intention and disposition (match what you want out of a friend) - What happens during autonomous independence?
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we rely on friends for support, both emotional and psychological
need more than one friend - Buhrmester and Furman's Socioemotional Model of Friendship
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*Juvenile (6-9): acceptance, hierarchies
* Preadolescent (9-12): intense closeness, similarities
*Early Adolescent (12+): sexuality erupts, patterns of fulfilling sexual needs and intimacy form
*Adolescence: four attachment needs
*YOung Adulthood: novel envn't, old friendships erode
*Midlife: dyadic withdrawal
*Old Age: barriers, bypass interaction - Cliques and crowds
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Clique: group that hang together
Crowd: a collection of cliques - Why are support, conflict, and peer pressure so importnat during adolescence?
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Supoort is important because friendshops thrive on it. It must be supportive for both individuals.
Conflict can also include competition between peers.
Peer pressure peaks at age 15, must follow the crowd. - Disengagement Perspective
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forwards that decreased activity levels are normal as are passive roles
*transition of power to younger generation
*release of elderly from being expected to work hard/be productive - Old Age Barriers to Social Contact
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*Retirement
* Death of friends
*No transportation
*Ageism
*sometimes they no longer want to interact with friends, rather be alone, stay home - Socioemotional Selectivity Theory
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our goals shift from intelletual to emotional
Present focus = emotional
future focus = intellectual
development deeper relationships with friends and family while letting casual relationship laspse with age. - Emotional sharing vs. common activiites
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emotional sharing: mostly pertain to female relationships
common activities: mostly pertain to male relationships - The Need for Intimacy
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a reccurrent preference for warm, close and communicative exchange with others
associated with less controlling behavior and emphasizes depth and quality of social relationsls