LAST SEM> HUMAN INT.
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- ___________ is the sending and receiving of messages, intentional and unintentional, berbal and nonberbal.
- communication.
- Communication is basic________
- human relationship
- Successful couples
- spend more time communicating about their relationship and personal feelings
- Sucessful couples
- compliment and express appreciation for each oether often
- communicating is
- lising
- emotional needs are
- more important than physical needs
- The strongest predictor of marital satifaction and stability
- successful problem solving
- The cornerstone of any relationship
- sucessful communication
- communication must be
- open, relaistic, tactful, caring and valued.
- When conflict arises
- communicat fairly abotu the problem, define it clearly, and be open to alternative solutions.
- Conflict management is essential to all
- intimate relationships
- The ___________ sometime sleads to troubledc couple to attempt to end their problems by changing partners, when it is in fact their relational skills that need changing
- myth of the right partner
- _______ means that they have many ways of communicating with each other, even many ways of conveying the same things
- richness
- The lifeblood of the successful family system is
- support, affirmation, appreciation, caring, respect, and interest in other family members
- Constant feeling of frustration, of not being understood, of not getting their message across
- poor communication
- failture to communicate well with others
- interpersonal communication
- intrapersonal communication
- internal
- aversie communication is one that
- starts out dealing with one conflict, but soon turns into a confusing kaleidoscope of other marginallyh related disagressments that are connected only by the pain each partner causes the other
- You attempt to make him.her feel better by downplaying the problem may
- backfire
- a double-edged sword
- communication
- Three general condictions must be met to achieve the kind of communication that builds strong, positive relationships.
- communitment, growth orientations (the partners must accept the fact that their relationship will always be dynamic and changing, rather than static) Noncoercive atmosphere (the partners must feel free to be themselves, to be open, and honest)
- __________ allow the other spouse to plan activties
- uncommitted partners
- Principle of least interest
- the one who cares the least controls the relationship
- A marrigae can described as __________ if both partners have total freedowm of choice and action __________ if responsibility is shared and authority is delegated by equitable agreement or ________ if both have responsibilities but authority is assigned
- laissez-faire, democratic, authocratic
- Comminciation motivation
- a felt need to comminicate
- communication skill
- the ability to accomplish one's communication goals
- communication behavior
- verbal and nonverbal actions that a person takes to accomplish his/her goals
- To own a problem
- one must be tangibly affected by it
- the first step towards solution is
- assuming ownership and responsibility for your problems.
- Self-assertion
- the process of recoqnizing and expressing one's feelings, ipinions, and attitudes while remaining aware of the feelings and needs of others
- seven stpes to sentific problem solving
- recognize and define the problem, set up condictions supportive of problem solving, brainstorm fo rpossible alternatives, select the best solution, evaluate the solution, modify the solution
- brainstorming
- producing as many ideas as possible within a given time period in a effort to solve a problem
- hidden conflict generally relies on one of the follow communication strategies
- denial, disqualification, displacement, disengagement, pzeudomutuality
- one zigger counteracts ____ positve acts of kindness
- 20
- five negative types of couple interaction are predictive of relationship failture
- contempt, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, delligerence
- in at least _________ of divorce cases, one or both spouses had been involved with another person
- one-third
- conflict fell into six clusters
- power, social issues, personal flawas, distrust, intimacy, and personal distance.
- hooking up
- sex without commitment
- joined at the hip
- couples who spend much of their time together but rarely go out on formal dates
- homogenous
- similar reace.ethnicity, religion, education, social class and age
- An unmarried couple contemplating sexual intercourse should consider
- personal principles, psychological principles, social principles, and religious principles
- date rape drugs
- GHB
- adults having consensual sex with a minor
- statutory rape
- Cohabitation
- a couple living together without being married
- common law marriage
- in some states, a couple living together for more than a certain number of years can be treated as legally married.
- Approximately _____ percent of women who cohabited before marriage have had a secondahomogamyry sexual partner while married, compared with only 4 percent of married women who had not cohabited
- 20
- the term ______ was coned to describe settelements made to a nonmarried, live-in partner
- palimony
- meretricious
- payment for sex
- propinquity
- dating marring someone living quite close geographically
- homogamy
- the tendency of people to marry persons similar to themselves
- endogamy
- the tendency of people to marry within their own group
- martial gradient
- in mate selection is the tendency for husbands to be more advanced than their wives with regard to age, education, and occupation sucess.
- miscegenation
- marriage of interbreeding between members of different races
- exogamy
- the tendency of people to marry outside their group
- halo effect
- the tendency for first impressions to influence succeeding evaluations
- cognitive compatibility
- how the other thinks, what his/her interests are and so on
- slection effects
- or the pre-existing differences between individuals who decide to marry or divorce and so on
- fulfilling needs in marriage
- sexual needs, material needs, psychological needs
- marital success
- adjustment, happiness, and permanence
- phenomenology
- the study of how people experience their world
- domestic partnership
- the law recognizes as valid some unmarried and homosexual couples' relationship
- marriage or prenuptial contract
- working out the details of a couple's relationship before they wed
- clitoris
- a small organ situated at he upper end of the female genitals that becomes erect with sexual arousal; homologous with the penis
- orgasm
- the climax of excitement in sexual activity
- inhibited sexual desire
- a pervasive disinterest in sex
- menopause
- the cessation of ovulation, menstruation, and fertility in the woman; usually occurs between ages 46-51
- estrogen replacement therapy
- supplying estrogen to menopausal women
- osteoporosis
- progressive deterioration of bone strength
- aphrodisiac
- a chemical or other substance used to induce erotic arousal or to relieve imptence or inferility
- anaphrodisiac
- a drug or medicine that reduces sexual dsire
- although communication problems are often the result of peronsal problems partners may have
- society can also facilitate or hinder good communication
- when people talk about failure in communication they may not mean no communication at all but
- too much negaitive and hurtful communication
- three basic conditions must be met before good communication can be ensured
- there must be a commitment to healthy communication. the partners must be oriented to growth and to improving the relationship, neither partner =must try to coerce the other through communications
- five skills are involved in successful problem-solving
- the partners must identify the ownship of the problem, each partner must be willing to speak up and state his/her position and feels, each must be a good listener, each must be willing to negotiate, and each must be willing to use problem-solving methods
- marriage is a three way relationship that involves
- man, woman, and the state
- _________ people essentially are people who feel comforable about themselves and others. they can meet most of the demands of life in a realistic fashion
- self-actualizing
- the basic goals of intimacy in a marriage are
- providing emotional gradtificaition to each partner, helping each deal with crises, and helping each grow in a fulfilling manner.
- the marriage ceremony commits a couple to
- a new status, with certain privileges, obligations and restrictions
- men and women differ sexuals in time:
- young men tend to have higher sexual intensity than young women, reaching the peak of sexual intensity in their late teens and early 20s
- sexual physical responses
- excitement, plateau, orgasmic, and resolution
- the male goes through a _______ period after the resolution stage before he can have another erection
- refactory
- contempt is
- a sense of diapprove or hate
- criticism is
- less specific, may complain a lot
- three types of marriage that succeed
- validate, volatile, avoidant
- Gottman's magic ratio
- 5:1 healthiest couples have about 5 positive events for every negative event.
- Naler's 3 verbal channels
- the words we speak and the two nonverbal channels. visual-tone of voice, body languages
- 4 reasons for communicating
- observation, share thoughs, shar feelings, expressing needs
- interpersonal conflict is
- conflict within
- Filter theory of mate selction
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-all possible dating partners
-propinquity filter
-persons near one another
-attractiveness filter
-couples atracted to one another
-social background filter
-couples with similar social backgrouns
-consensus filter
-couples with similar attitudes and values
-complementarily filter
-couples with high complementarily
-readiness for marriage filter
-married couples - Pittman's 4 differnt types of extra matrial relationships
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accidental
romantic indfigeltiy
martial arrangements
lalandering (keep scoring) - myths of infidelity
- everyone does it, affairs are good fo ryou, people have affairs because they aren't in love, people have affairs because they are over-sexed, affairs are the fall of the coluple, its best to pretend not to know, after an affair divorce is inevitable
- 'I' messages consist of three parts
- feeling, situation, how it affects me personally
- an I message is
- a statement or face rather than evluations
- important communication skills
- identifying problem ownership, self-assertion, empatheic listening, negotiating, problem solving
- problem solving process
- recognize and define the problem, set up conditions,brainstrom select the best solution, implement the solution, evaluate the solution, modify the solution
- termination
- separation, domination, compromise, integrative agreements, structural improvemetns
- levels of marital conflict
- 1-problems to solve 2-disagreements 3-contest 4-fight/flight 5-war
- predictors of divorce
- criticism, contempt, defensiveness, withdrawal