Glossary of CMST 211 test 3
Created by alexandriadahl
- when people violate implicit or explicit relation rules (being faithful, honest, loyal, etc)
- when someone makes their partner feel unappreciated and unimportant. \"i\'m not surprised you failed, you\'re not that good of a student.\"
- emotional infedelity
- emotional involvement with another person, which leads one\'s partner to channel \"emotional resources such as romantic love, time and attention to someone else.\"
- sexual infidelity
- sexual activity with someone other than one\'s long term partner
- jealousy occurs when people worry they might lose something they value due to interference from a 3rd party.
- occours when someone wants something valueable someone else has (money, better life, etc)
- postive ways to manage jealousy
- types of deception: deception
- intentionally managing verbal or nonverbal messages so that a receiver will believe something that the sender knows is false
- types of deception: equivocation
- saying something indirect or ambiguous. (wow, your hair is just the latest fashion! when you hate it)
- types of deception: concealment
- omitting information you know is important and relevant to a given context.
- types of deception: exaggeration
- streatching the truth a little to make yourself look better or to make a story more interesting
- types of deception: understatement
- downplaying aspects of the truth
- top 3 types of hurtful messages
- evaluation:this relationship was a waste of my time
accusation: you are a selfish and rude person!
informative statement: i only dated you because i was on the rebound.
- responses to hurtful messages
- active verbal response: confronting the person\'s hurtful remarks.
acquiescent response: giving in and acknowledging the person\'s ability to hurt you.
invunerable response: laugh it off, act like it doesn\'t hurt.
- remedial strategies for the transgressor
- apologize, appeasment (i\'ll make it up to you!), explaination, denial, aviodance, and relationship talk.
- a disagreement between two interdependant people who percieve they don\'t have the same goals.
- conflict styles: competitive fighting
- attempting to achieve a win-lose scenario when they win and their partner loses, haha.
- conflict styles: collaborating
- when they consider each others goals and opinions
- conflict style: compromising
- searching for a fair, itermediate position that makes both sides happy
- conflict styles: yielding
- when you give in to what your partner wants
- conflict styles: avoiding
- refraining from arguing or confronting their partner in any way.
- conflict styles: indirect fighting
- failing to acknowledge partner\'s concerns or ignoring them.
- negative reciprocity
- when one person becomes agressive in a fight, the other person is more likely to as well.
- demand-withdrawal theory:
- when one person wants to engage in conflict and the other person wants to avoid it.
- each partner sees it differently (i nag because you withdrawal.... i withdrew because you always nagged)
- four horsemen of the apocalypse
- complaining/criticizing:you\'re so loud in the morning!
contempt/disgust: no i wasn\'t, you\'re just overly sensitive.
defensiveness: you don\'t care about me at all!
stonewalling: i\'m done talking about this.
- 3 explanations of conflict patters
- emotional flooding
communication skills deficits
- 4 reasons relationships end
loss of love
alcohol and drugs
- ducks 5 phases of relationship termination
- intrapsychic process
grave dressing process
- knapps reversal hypothesis
- catastrophe theory
- this theory says that relationships don\'t end just by going through steps, that some breakups skip steps and that relationships end like sudden death
- negative emotions that come from breakups
- loneliness, financial consequences, effects on children, health consequences
- positive emotions from breakups
- personal growth, relief, increased self confidence, learned new communications, concentrating more on school/work, knowing what you now want out of a partner
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